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Tionna was a blast to interview! She had me in tears laughing about the realities of dating, women and men, how we act and think while dating. All true, no debating over here. I appreciated how down to earth and uncensored she was with me. I can’t wait to read the book and put it all together. Enjoy our interview!
ChristieOhh: How did “Men Love Abuse” come about?
Tionna: I was on twitter one day talking about life and relationship like always; and I have a lot of females that tell me their stories and ask me to give advice. I realized by the ladies on twitter and that come up to me on the streets for advice that these ladies are way to nice. So I tweeted y’all treat guys to good, “Men Love Abuse.” I got like 100,000 retweets and that’s when I it hit me to write the book. I actually was in the process of writing another book but stopped to get this book done.
ChristieOhh: What are women doing wrong?
Tionna: Women are jumping way to fast into a relationship and their feelings are way to vested. Once females feel like they got him; they don’t want to go out as much, get their hair done enough, females get way too comfortable too fast. You still have to have a life. I think women don’t date enough. Hang out with men and see what you like, don’t just jump at the first man you go out with, you may not even like him in a month or two. Date and enjoy yourself.
ChristieOhh: What are men doing wrong?
Tionna: Men are not taking the responsibility they should take. Back in the day, men took care of home. They didn’t mind taking care of their families, I don’t know if their mothers gave them to much or what. It seems like men just want something they don’t have. Men are really still just searching. While women are getting too serious too quick.
ChristieOhh: What are your favorite chapters in the book?
Tionna: The whole book is good! The main thing I thought was strong was my chapter “No title, No chicken.” What made me write this chapter was to explain, this guy is not your guy, why are you sitting there cooking for a guy and going all out of your way. He doesn’t even want to buy the groceries for you to cook. So, “No title, No chicken”
The next chapter that I thought people should really tap into is, “Save the suck” chapter. Oral sex, slurrpy! Why are we giving jump off’s head. Everybody does not deserve head. Straight up! There are things that we have all been though but giving every dude oral sex is not cool. If you are going to suck, suck with a purpose, know there is something there.
ChristieOhh: What do you want your readers/fans to get out of “Men Love Abuse?”
Tionna: To feel strong, feel liberate. The book is geared more to dating and understanding. When people here the title “Men Love Abuse,” it’s not about pouching them in the face but know you are the hot commodity and know your worth. You don’t have to rush things, be confident in your decisions. I want my readers to leave feeling empowered and confident and know you matter.
ChristieOhh: When do you think is that point in a dateship when he or she wants to be exclusive or want more?
Tionna: When they start showing you, breaking their neck to see you, their offering things before you ask. I’m all about show me don’t tell me. Once they start to introduced to their mother, friends, people on job, they let you know and show you and make you feel like they want you.
“Nothing like a man that really loves you and treats you right…The main thing is that you want someone that wants to be there!” Tionna Smalls
ChristieOhh: I have to ask this question, does the 90 day rule matter?
Tionna: No, it does not matter. That’s dated. Most people have sex before 90 days anyway. You don’t have to put rules on sex anyway. It doesn’t matter, I don’t think you should just be sleep around with people on the first night but there’s always those different situations. I’ve been writing since 2007. And haven’t seen that to be an issue with anyone. I’m not waiting 90 days to find out this guy is garage. So, you save it for 3 months and have sex with loser and he diss you after sex, you still feel bad. I’m not waiting 90 days to find that this guy is an asshole. Straight up! Now, you not supposed to just give it up but you do need to be ready when you have sex.
ChristieOhh: What’s next?
Tionna: I have a new show coming soon! Can’t give you much details but I promise you will be one of the first to know. My accesories boutique Loveys, which was on the first episode of VH1′s Love and Hip Hop. I’m writing more books of course. I’m opening a plus size boutique in Richmond, VA around March 1 with my sister called Majesty’s Closet.
ChristieOhh: I have to read your book, where can we buy it?
Tionna: Go to amazon.com search Men Love Abuse (Books) Download on Kindle and Nook
A message from Tionna to her supporters and fans: I just want to thank everybody for your support and reading the book. I will have a 2 hour Livestream at the end of this month, going over the chapters of the book, getting feedback and answering your question. Please give your input. Look for it!
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